Helpers from Hell

We sometimes hear stories about maids being abused and all kinds of thought cross our minds. On the other hand, we also hear about maids being great and stay on till the kids gets married and have kids of their own.

Good or bad, it all depends on luck?

Back in the days when Malaysian took in local helpers, it was good. Well, it had to be good as the children are left with the maid at home. No CCTV or whatever. Helpers would cook, clean, take care of kids and some even do gardening.

Today, Malaysian mostly take in Indonesian helpers. So we hear of all the horror stories. About kids being poisoned, abused, husbands being seduced etc. Some of us read of these events thinking that it’ll never happen to U.

For instance, I read about the Nirmala case and I’m hinking….how could one be so bold? But, you could.

Live in helpers are expected to help and employers depends on them. If the helpers are not here to work but instead thought that coming to Malaysia was a ticket to get out of Indonesia…well, Houston we have a problem.

Personally, I’ve had my own experience. Helper was lazy, biadap (rude) and dirty.

Things that almost drove me mad was

She wouldn’t wake up on her own. Since I’ll be breastfeeding my daughter, hubby would have to wake her up everyday. Set an alarm for her, she’ll just turn it off.
Milk bottles were dirty.
Ironing 3 pieces of shirt while I’m out the whole day?????
She never cleans her room
She sleeps anywhere she fancies.
Used the kitchen scissors to cut her hair or some ‘bulu’ and put it back in the utensils drawer unwashed. After this event, the house had hair/bulu all over the place. When told to tidy up, she didn’t. So I had to vacumn the whole house.
She had this tendency to put her hand in my handbag to ‘search’ for things like the house keys. Then smirks when I told her off. ‘Ibu takut saya curi barang?’
washed shoes in the kitchen sink using children bowl for holding the soap??? There were clean plates & glasses on the sink as well. Normally she washes shoes in the toilet.

Arghhhhhh……for 3 months she drove me crazy. Nonetheless, I had to keep her for the agent was not ready to take her back. I put no reliance on her and just had her do things like tidy up after meals (which was either cooked by me or bought). Putting things into the car.

After endless scolding, I found that she had been talking to some of MY RELATIVES and she thinks that she’s doing just fine and I’m a plain bitch. I do hope that some people do not interfere in my life cause u’re just making things worse and U really have other things to do in your life.

Well, Bedah was my Nirmala minus the scars.

Milk booster

This post acts as a reminder to me..should i need it later in life.

Things that help mummy's milk production.

1. Oats
I add this to my drink or consume the 3-in 1

2. Dates
Ate Kgs of Kurma Mariam during confinement. Blended pitted dates with milk works wonders for me....served cold.

3. Sawi / mustard
Green vege...take in any way...soup or stir fry

4. Lobak putih
Soup

5. Fanugreek / halba
Took 1 teaspoon a day. A bit heaty for me...

6. The pill from Amway set bersalin...during confinement, this helped boost my milk supply.

To ensure, any of these works, one must consume enough water on a daily basis. Have a healthy diet. Drink milk daily....and try to exercise...

Lazy

Feeling Lay-zeeee. Not in the mood.

Grobaby review

Since i decided to revamp the kid's diaper stash for the 3rd time (i think), I've been searching for 'the' diaper.This time around I decided on the AI2 system. Why? Because pocket is pricey, fitted is like putting on 2 diapers and AIO takes too long to dry (plus my dryer isn't working anymore). So, the cheapest is AI2.Initially, I opted for Daisy Doodle and some prefold. A place that has both..Tiny Tapir.
At this point, tinytapir had just opened its shop at Ampang Park. So, off i went to their shop.I was pretty dissapointed that the Daisy Doodle was still in Damai, but was impressed with its new product Grobaby.I took 1 shell set which consists of 1 shell, 1 soaker and 1 doubler. That's RM105. To make it economical, I added a set of soaker, RM72 for 2 pieces. Pretty good. For RM177, i now have 3 diapers.The colours are the same as Dream Eze, because they come from the same source...duh! I opted for Purple, i mean, how wrong can i go with purple...its my fav colour.
Went home and soaked it in hot water. Then rinsed it by hand and chuck it in the washing machine. Dried it and tada....I'm all set to try it. Regardless of what the instructions says.The fit....good, DD who is 11kg fits in the L setting. Looks, its trim. :) I put on a mini skirt for her. Sooo cute! Absorbance is good, i mean, i didn't leak and DD is a pretty heavy wetter. Rash check....0k!
So, i figured we can get more soakers....yeah, wait till i sell the old diapers...Sold the old diapers, let's get more soakers...wait, what's this..unused soaker in the stash? uuhhh, she did #2 and soiled the shell. Now....i think we need more shell. So, i got another set of Shell and soaker. If i need some more, I'll just add the soaker...The soaker is so soft. Its organic cotton. Ayesha loves putting her bottom on it. I love it too. It really is absorbent. With this system, i don't mind using Cd for outings.
Bringing a change is minimal as i just need the soaker. It takes up little space in the bag (this is an issue when u need to bring things for 2 kids). But the soaker isn't like normal inserts, because its thick, it takes slightly longer to dry.And the soaker actually has a sewn on boaster and elastics on the sides.
What else do i like about Grobaby, the touchtape! Its soft. U won't ever scratch your baby with it, no matter how wriggly ur baby is.... :)
Now, it grobaby had a contest on diaper review...do u think I'll win one?

Cloth diaper for sale

DB hybrid RM37.00
Pink polkadots. Its a All in one and pocket. Size M.

GAD brown RM43.00 and GAD pink RM 43.00
Both GAD are pocket. Size Husky Medium.

Kissaluv RM 33.00
Both size 2. This is a fitted diaper. Take both and i'll throw in some doublers.

My Precious Baby by April... Diaper cover with lay in soaker. (diaper cover cum AI2)
Size L. RM45.00


Freshbots Dryz. A pocket diaper. Size L. RM20 each. Comes with the original soaker. Take the whole lot and I'll give you an additional soaker.

A view of all the diapers that needs new owners... Just in case i don't have enough time to upload.

ABC swaddlebees cover RM37.00

Brown colour. L size.

Freshbots Flower pocket RM35.00

Pocket onse size. Comes with 2 inserts (big & small)

MPBBA FLEECE COVER RM38.00 (booked: Kifana)

Diaper cover. Lilac with flowers at the tab. Fluffy and soft outer. Size L.

Babybeehinds RM56.00 (Booked : Kifana)

One size fitted bamboo.

Itti bitti RM57.00 (booked : cefwan)

M size. Brown. Used for a month only.

Bella bottom pink RM42.00 (Booked : kifana)

Fitted diaper. One size. Cute small flowers. (my picture is really bad)

Bella bottom purple RM42.00 (booked : kifana)

Fitted diaper. One size. Colourful teapots

p/s..I'll add more pictures when time permits.....

Virgin tag

I'm not much of a blogger...this is the first time i'm doing this...

What were you doing 5 years ago?
5 years ago was 2003. I just graduated and worked at Amal where i met my Hubby...:)

What were the 5 things on your list to do today?
Bank in that cheque
Shop for new diaper
Grocery shopping at the pasar malam
Clear my table
Read a book with the kids.

What are the snacks that you enjoy?
Dates
Snickers bar
Twix
A bowl of mulberry with susu pekat
Seaweed

What are 5 things you do if you are a billionaire
Invest money so that it doesn't run out
Start the business that i wanted
Buy shares in my current company
Get that house that i want and renovate it
Work on my own time so that i can spend more time with the kids

What 5 jobs you've had
Takaful broker
Corporate planning exec at MILS
Bumiputera exec at MIDF
Accounts exec at Commerce Life
Part time promoter with Lobos Event

Who are the 5 person you want to tag
how do i do this...
Mel
Fuzah
dunno....

The green earth

Is the earth really green? hahahha... So, why say green earth..It used to be green? did it?
How about blue earth? grey earth?
We all know that the earth nowadays is so polluted. But what do we do? Do we use a green car like Cameron Diaz? (excuse me, i just saw her on tv last night) Or do we use loads of plastic bags and more and more non biodegradeble things? I'm so very guilty when it comes to this.
I used plastic bags for so many things, from packing to throwing rubbish.
I tried to do my bit by planting some plants on my nonexistence garden. Ok, its a patch of land that does not belong to me, but its there and i'm trying to make it nice and green. What do i do? I plant some mulberry. Did it grow? For a while it did..then its just alive. Perhaps its due to the lack of sunlight. (its in between buildings). Other plants that is not growing are my pokok limau purut, pokok kari and a type of ulam. Wait, the ulam does grow but slowly. I'm still analysing my pandan. Sad, my green thumb isn't very green...
On a different note, I'm proud to say that I'm not a big contributor to the growing hill of used diaper or sanitary pad. yeay! Although I've 2 kids on diaper, they are mostly on cloth diaper which needs to be washed, not thrown away and me..I'm in love with cloth pads.
Yucks! cloth pads..like the ones our grandmother used to use? Nope! These are much more modern pads. One thing for sure u can't get it in any retail store here in Malaysia. Fact is, muslims or malays are in the habit of rinsing their sanitary pads before throwing it away. So, y use diaposables when cloth are much more comfy. I love getting my period nowadays because i look forward to used my cloth pads. Why is it comfy? because it doesn't have all the chemicals that they put in your white cloth like pad. Just because its white..u think its clean. Is it really clean? Nope. Its just the psycological effect...marketing they call it.
DOn't get me wrong... I don't go all green...eating only organics..bla bla bla...
But the things i do is simply because i think its reasonable. PLus, the pads and diaper comes in cute designs and colours.... :)
But I still think that parents should reduce their usage of disposable diapers because it takes too long for it to decompose. Please....?